You know those moments when your child is walking towards you with an adult and she looks sternly at you from 100 meters away and he looks so white you would think that he has not seen the sun in years and you are thinking 'oh dear lord, this does not look good'.......well, I had that moment today.
So, we were at our local Little Athletics meet. Ive joined recently to help build the confidence of my second born who needs to step outside his comfort zone and try new things. Ive included my third born as he is very sporty, its right up his alley BUT he certainly needs no help in the confidence area! Because of their differences, I stand with the second born more to enocourage him along, and check in every so often with no.3 to make sure all is well....... clearly, after today, Im not paying enough attention to no.3!!!
As they approached, I said to my friend 'Oh this is not good.......', I was right
So the lady said...... (eyes burning into my soul)..... "Are you Josh's mum?". I admit, I had that split second thought of 'I don't know if I am or not for this one.......' but I said "yeeeeeeeeeeess..." nervously. She said "can I have a word with you please". "Oh, ok", I responded in a hesitant manner. "I thought you might like to know that I have given Josh 4 warnings about his behaviour today and he has not taken me seriously so I asked him where his mum or dad was". "Oh" I said... "what has he done?" I glared at him now thinking 'oh my lord, here it comes..... brace yourself mumma bear, no ones perfect.....' "Well" she said, "he has been having inappropriate discussions and swearing." "Oh, what has he been saying?" I asked. "Do you really want to know?" she said. "Well, yes, if I don't know then I cant deal with it correctly" I said. "Well he has been talking about penises and saying things like 'bullshit'". "Oh", I said... "Im so sorry, that is disgusting. Thank you for letting me know, Ill deal with him". "Yes, please do, we don't allow such revolting behaviour here..." she sternly reinforced. "I understand", I said, feeling as though she must think this is how we roll in my family.... I do have 4 boys after all, surely I am out of control!!??! Anyway, she stormed off and I let him have it!
Im so disappointed in him. I don't condone that kind of crude behaviour and if I see others being so disgusting, Ill admit, Im one of those people who stand back and thank god the my kids aren't like that...... Now I realise, they can be like that and I have to reiterate our rules and morals and what we expect from them..... Man, this parenting gig is hard! Times like these make me wonder..... what came first, being a parent or the invention of alcohol...?
Right now he is cleaning his room. That is no easy task. It is foul. He is clearing out all of the junk that he and his brother have been secretly shoving under their beds and he is putting things back where they belong. After he has finished that I am sure I can find another job for him. And another, and another..... In fact, if you have any odd jobs needing done today, mail me.... I know someone who would be perfect for it! We have had quite an in depth discussion about what is right and what is wrong. We have made it clear that if he cant behave appropriately in a group then he will not begin his first year of football this year... Something he has been waiting about 3 years for! I am hoping that as his parent, I have re-set the guidelines and he understands them clearly. I blame myself to a point, we have been so pre-occupied with lawyers, horrible people and legal battles, all the while trying to maintain a healthy marriage through it all, I guess we have relaxed our rules somewhat. Oh well, no-ones perfect!
So that was my morning! Surely my day can only get better yes? I did come out of today proud however.... My confidence - challenged boy cleared the high jump and came 4th in the 800 metre run, blisters on his toe and all!
Aaaaah, the peaks and troughs of motherhood!!!
Tell me Im not alone in mothering mortification......... c'mon sistas, fess up so I can feel better!